Walk down any Kindergarten or preschool hallway over the first few weeks of school and you will probably hear a sniffle, sob, or just a flat out crying child. My youngest daughter has always had a hard time with separation anxiety but I think I have come up with something that might actually help make the transition of leaving mom and dad easier!
After seeing several punch cards on Pinterest for chores, it hit me, “why don’t I make a punch card for every time my daughter has a tear free drop off”?! Off to the drawing board I went! So I came up with the “No Cry GOOD Bye” card. Every time my daughter has a GOOD bye without any tears then she gets a punch on her punch card. After 10 punches she earns a small prize or to pick something from the treasure box.
I showed my daughter the card that evening and explained what it was and she was so excited she was already dreaming up what she would get with her reward. The next morning it was off to school and she was a little hesitant as usual but then I said “do you want to show your card to your teacher”? “Yes!” she said with glee! She wanted to hold the card the entire time and as we made our way down the hallways of the school she was even showing it to other kids. Then she had a brilliant idea: “Mom! Let’s put it in my folder so my teacher can give me a punch”! Wow! I hadn’t even thought of that! I just thought I would keep it and punch it everyday, but if that’s what would keep this child from crying and doing the leg lock on my leg then let’s run with that. Low and behold her folder had a little spot on the inside for a business card (and of course I designed the card to be business card size) so it fit perfectly! She practically ran into the class room to show her teacher and hardly noticed when I told her bye three times (I must admit my heart ached just a little there). What a wonderful feeling, to walk away and your child is not crying and sad!
When I was leaving school that morning a friend stopped me and told me her daughter wanted “The CARD”. My friend has also been struggling with her daughter in the mornings. She told her daughter that she would make her a chart and her reply was “No, I want the card”. Woo hoo Moms! There is hope! I’m just so excited that it worked and the kids like it!
We used the card again later that afternoon for swim lessons and it worked like a charm.
So I want to spread the “no cry GOOD bye” love to all the mom’s, teachers, and kids! You can get a printable PDF version of the “No Cry GOOD Bye ” cards by clicking this link. For more back to school tips see my post One Product Makeover: Kids’ Clothes Back to School.
What do you think? Do you think the card will work for your kids? What other strategies have you used to have a tear free farewell?