Kid’s are so funny. I was working yesterday while my kids were here, so I had set up the Play-Doh for my girls. As a result they were running up to my desk ever 2-5 minutes bringing me Play-Doh ice cream or Play-do safari animals. I was the recipient of a Play-Doh baby giraffe, which has hard pieces that you insert to make it look more like a giraffe like legs, snout, tail, eyes, and ears. After the leaning giraffe had been sitting on my desk for about 10 minutes my 5 year old came up to me with a piece that she wasn’t sure what to do with. I realized it was a pattern that you were supposed to stamp on to the giraffe to give him some texture.
Now, my first instinct was to take the giraffe apart, roll him into a smooth ball, stamp the pattern on him, and reassemble him. But I resisted. I didn’t want to impose my perfectionist ideals on my child’s creativity. So in a matter of seconds she charged ahead and was stamping the pattern onto her bumpy giraffe with pride.
As an organizing expert I work with parents and children all the time who have different organizing styles. Sometimes the child has a natural organizing style and the parents are completely unorganized or perhaps it’s the parents who are organized. Although I feel it’s very important to teach our children organizationally skills and responsibilities around the house, I don’t think it’s helpful to impose habits that won’t likely make a difference in our day to day life around the house. An art project she is getting graded on is one thing, but something that is just for around the house is another story.
When it comes to perfectionism, are you a good role model for your child or are you letting your perfectionistic style influence your child?
Keep it simple.
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